Remembering Kathy Wetherell

knew Kathy from:

happy birthday KW. your Facebook group is blowing up today. guess a lot of us still miss you...

Posted by on Wed, Jul 6, 2011

David Joyce knew Kathy from: friends for decades

Kathy wrote these lyrics around 1995. amazing.

ANGEL ON YOUR SHOULDER – Kathy Wetherell - May, 1995?

verse
Come here, my darlin’, listen close
I’ve got some things to tell you
My old body’s gettin’ weak
and it don’t move like it used to

I know you’re scared and all shook up
Wonderin’ how you’ll get by
so hear me good, I’ll tell you once
and you remember it when I die

Chorus
I’ll be the angel on your shoulder
I’ll be there to hear you call
and catch you when you fall
I’ll be the angel on your shoulder
all this pain you’re feelin’ now
is only for a while
‘cause when you look real close inside your heart
you know you’ll always see me smile

verse
I’m sorry things just didn’t go
the way you always prayed
but don’t you get upset with God
you should see my new body he made
honey, I hate to see you blue
so remember this when you’re sad
it’s just a part of feelin’ good
that sometimes you feel bad

CHORUS

Bridge
Time will try to drag you down
but don’t stop fightin’ through
hope may fade and when it does
remember and hold onto...

Last Chorus:
I am the angel on your shoulder
I’ll be there when you wonder why
and hold you when you cry
I’ll be the angel on your shoulder
all this pain you’re feelin’ now
is only for a while
‘cause when you look real close inside your heart
you know you’ll always see...
Oh, just look for me...
you know it’s you and me...
we smile.

Posted by David Joyce on Thu, Jul 22, 2010

Lauren Stevens knew Kathy from: Working together

For a long time I’ve wanted to write something on this site. I still think about Kathy often and today being her 50th birthday I figure it's a good day to share some of the memories I have of the sweet nutcase.

I am a very lucky girl. I had the opportunity to take a crash course in “friendship with Kathy” during the last few months of her life. Working at the same company, Kathy and I had known each other for many years, but had never had the chance to truly get to know one another. But that changed during our last show together. It was the first project in which we were partnered up as producers. And as we all know, when you are partnered up on a show you spend A LOT of time together. While this can suck if you’re teamed up with the wrong person, being teamed up with Kathy proved to be a blast.

We bonded quickly over our quirky ways and love of laughing. We shared frustrations at having to wear “age appropriate” clothing, our need for platform production shoes and our preference to wear make-up on set. Naturally we became sounding boards for one another dealing with challenges at work. We handled difficult situations as a team and I admired her commitment to good work and to standing up for what she believed. She was incredibly passionate about helping the young men in need of guidance that were our cast and went above and beyond to do so. Ultimately, Kathy was a total spazz, which combined with her incredible work ethic, tremendous talent, and huge heart was exactly what kept the project – and me – going.

A Few Memories of Kathy:

• It was my birthday while we were shooting. I very clearly told Kathy I didn’t want anyone to know about it. Yet the morning of my birthday, the moment I walked into the control room Kathy stood up with dramatic, sweeping arms and led the group, “Ahem! Okay everybody, let’s go!… Haaaapppy Birrrttthdaaay to you…”.

• After a long day in the field, Kathy and I were driving back to the production house. We were starving and decided McDonalds was the perfect solution (of course). Thinking we mustn’t be the only ones craving delicious, crappy food we proceeded to order nearly $100 worth of burgers and fries for the crew. The girl in the window wouldn’t take our order, insisting, “You guys are playin’ me” and called the manager out to talk to us. We stuffed our faces and laughed our way back to set.

• Each night after shooting we would drive to crew parking. And each night that fabulous ass of Kathy’s would get caught in the door getting out of the backseat. As I’d shout, “angle it!” she’d wiggle to get her butt, fanny pack, walkie and other production accessories through the seat and door. She’d laugh her ass off – and eventually out - of the car.

On the day of the accident Kathy and I were back in the office posting the show. We spent the day together watching cuts, in meetings and hanging out. We treated ourselves to Del Taco for lunch and she happily sucked back a Diet Coke even though she said “she shouldn’t”. We talked about whether or not we’d have children; we talked about how happy we were in our relationships… we talked about life. That night Kathy left to see her family, to do what she seemed to love doing most - help and support others - and I know she was happy.

Kathy, despite being a total tear-shedding sap, you were a tough broad and an amazing role model in the industry and beyond. Thank you for introducing me to your amazing friends and beautiful family, for making me laugh, and for reminding me to appreciate life and those I love. Happy Birthday crazy lady.

Love,
Lauren

Posted by Lauren Stevens on Wed, Jul 7, 2010

suesie toole knew Kathy from: friend - producer of a pilot for my daughter

GOD BLESS YOU, FRANKIE, GARY AND DARRYL...so great to finally get to talk with you tonight! i just wanted to say that kendall and i have kept kathy's spirit alive every day of 2009. her laughter, her jokes, her spirit and her warmth always carried us to where we needed to go. we miss our lunches and chats, but we hold dearly to our last one....and will cherish it always. frankie and gary...thank you for passing along the "a child of mine" and "brenda's song"...tonight.....both brought tears. darryl, frankie and gary... always know that kendall and i will forever hold kathy close in our hearts. she was a wonderful mentor, a wonderful sounding board and a wonderful friend. we miss her so much....but not nearly as much as you do. THANK YOU for sharing her with us. we will forever be grateful and will always live with "the spirit of kathy" in our lives! for that we are so fortunate to have...xoxoxo suesie and kendall toole

Posted by suesie toole on Mon, Dec 21, 2009

Erika/Tom knew Kathy from:

Below is the announcement from the Facebook group events page, from Tom...the link to RSVP at the FB group is to the right.
We hope to see you there on the 20th if you're at all around town.
ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF KATHY'S PASSING
Date:Sunday, December 20, 2009
Time: 2:00pm - 10:00pm
Location: Lidos 15232 Victory Blvd Van Nuys, CA
It’s so hard to believe, but we’re coming up on the one year anniversary of Kathy’s passing. Many of us still feel a great loss and have decided to plan a casual get together in her honor.
F.O.K (friends of Kathy), will meet on December 20th, 2009 at Lidos restaurant (15232 Victory Blvd. Van Nuys, CA.) It was one of her favorite places. The gathering is totally casual, there’s no schedule and nothing planned. Just come reminisce, share some funny memories and connect with some good friends. Feel free to come wearing your fannypacks and smelling like McDonalds.
Please RSVP, so we can give the restaurant an approximate head count. You can RSVP under “upcoming events” on her Facebook page. I hope everyone is well. It will be great to see so many of you again.

Posted by Erika/Tom on Sat, Nov 28, 2009

Patti (Zimmerman) Ferbey knew Kathy from: cousin

I was in Calgary, Alberta the beginning of November, 2009 to visit my Mother and to attend my brother Tim's son Craig's wedding reception. We learned of Kathy's accident at the reception from another of Kathy's cousins. I haven't seen Kathy or her family for more years than I can remember but I have to say I have been very upset by her passing. I just can't get her out of my mind.

I used to babysit Kathy and her brother when our families lived in Seattle, Washington. We had many years of family get togethers and fun until Gary and Frances moved their young family from Seattle. Kathy was the apple of her father and Grandpa Curly's eyes. Curly was my father's brother. She was such a cutie.

I have looked though all the pictures I could find on the internet and see how she was loved and how she loved life. It just doesn't seem right that her life was so short.

I hope to hear from Kathy's husband someday. It is sad they had so few years together.

Patti (Zimmerman) Ferbey

Posted by Patti (Zimmerman) Ferbey on Wed, Nov 11, 2009

Lauralee Jarvis knew Kathy from: I was her Bitch...

Hello All!

This was a tough week...thanks all who shared stories and well wishes. My heart still aches for Kathy, as I know many of you still feel the same.

I just wanted to let you all know that the memorial DVD is finally done. Thanks to Joy Park for her editing, it is complete. I know many of you were not able to be there or if you were there and want to see again, send me an e-mail with your address and I will send you a DVD:
LauraleeJarvis@aol.com

Again, I can't thank you all enough for your support.

Hugs and much love!
--Lauralee A Jarvis

Posted by Lauralee Jarvis on Sun, Jul 12, 2009

KP knew Kathy from: 51 Minds

Happy Birthday, Kathy... I always remember you making me feel like I was someone special and that you cared about what I had to say, even when I had nothing to say :). I remember thinking, at your memorial service, that the world needs more people like you, so it was unfair that you were taken away. But then I realized that maybe you needed to be in a more powerful place - like in an angel role because you weren't penetrating people enough as a human.... I hope you're smiling on all of us because that's how I imagine you!!! Be well, angel, and know that many people are sending you love.

Posted by KP on Tue, Jul 7, 2009

Shalondra knew Kathy from: I met Kathy while working at 51 Minds

Since learning the news of Kathy's passing, I was greatly affected. More so than I would normally be considering that I didn't know her that well. I am in just as much disbelief today as I was then. I didn't leave a note when I found out because I felt that it should be left sacred for those who had intimate relationships with her. I decided to leave a note today because, not knowing that it is her birthday, she came to mind and thinking of her made me smile. So while we weren't close I feel that a part of her light is with me and I hope, as I would wish for all who knew her, to carry that sass, light and care in ways that she no longer can.

Sending condolences to her family and prayers of solace and peace to all of her loved ones.

Posted by Shalondra on Mon, Jul 6, 2009

Alex Rossario knew Kathy from: From some bug-infested, sweaty island where we shot "adults" acting like total asses and called it a TV show. ;)

Much love to all who hold her close to our hearts, and many beautiful birthday wishes to the sky where she watches us. I can see her sending me a middle-finger salute right now. :)

Posted by Alex Rossario on Mon, Jul 6, 2009

erika knew Kathy from: i got lucky

how i remember her, taken in 1998.

happy birthday Kathy! thanks for teaching me how to stay young, adventurous, and how to laugh at just about anything. there's always something that reminds me of you. i miss you terribly.

Posted by erika on Mon, Jul 6, 2009

Jodi knew Kathy from: friend

I just miss your voice, your laughter, your love, your advice, and your presence so very much.

Posted by Jodi on Wed, Mar 11, 2009

Kendall Toole knew Kathy from: Worked with her on a pilot

There truly aren't words to explain how it feels to know that Kathy is gone. She made a great impact on my life and I will forever be grateful to her for that. I first met Kathy two years ago when she agreed to help (for free...so Kathy) produce a "demo" for a show I was apart of. The first time I met her I remember thinking, "wow, I wonder if it is humanly possible to be so lively all the time?" From that point on, her entire way of living enamored me. She wanted to know about everybody and everything that made them who they were. It was like she was secretly writing all of it down and could tell you your personality better then you could. Soon enough we were at my house shooting the demo. It was the middle of August and BAKING HOT. Kathy and the rest of the crew were in my teeny, tiny bedroom with the air conditioning off (sound reasons). Kathy was laying on the floor in between my bed and by dresser in a space about a foot wide. We would do a take and then Kathy would pop her head up from the side of the bed, fervently give me directions, and pop back down to hide for another take. This went on for about 2 hours and each time Kathy would pop her head up, she was just as enthusiastic as the first time. Later once shooting was over, Kathy, the crew, and my family all hung out in the family room. Kathy was telling us stories from the most recent show she were working on and literally everyone was in tears. She did her impersonations of these people so well. She had their voice, body language, and everything. For about an hour we were all listening and watching The Kathy Show and dying from laughter. Then she checked the time, and said she had to go and get home to Darryl. If I have ever seen anyone madly in love, it had to be Kathy. From the first time we met and on she always talked about Darryl and how they met or how she "had to get home to Darryl." That's the thing with Kathy, she loves, lives, and cares to her fullest. After shooting the demo my mom and I would meet her for lunch for a quick hour, and would have the greatest time. It still seems confusing that such a light of a person had to leave so soon, but I have no doubt she is even more beautiful as an angel. I will forever be thankful to have learned so young what it is to truly live and I owe that vital lesson to Kathy. I am only sixteen, but I know that I will forever live my life with her in my heart and hopefully within my actions.
xoxo

Posted by Kendall Toole on Sun, Feb 22, 2009

Stan Patterson knew Kathy from: through her wonderful parents Gary and Frankie

I got to know Kathy and Don many years ago when I visited and stayed with her parents, Gary and Frankie. Kathy was a wonderful person. She was so very friendly and outgoing. I sincerely enjoyed getting to know her and Don when I stayed with her parents in Apple Valley. Although I live in Branson Missouri I have contined to stay in contact with Gary and Frankie and have heard so many wonderful stories about Kathy and her career over the years. She was loved by so many people. What a wonderful person she was. She is in God's loving arms.

Posted by Stan Patterson on Tue, Feb 10, 2009

KW's B knew Kathy from: Friend

Everyone please watch "From G's to Gents" on Tuesday (2/10/09 - MTV 10pm EST). This was Kathy's last show and she was so dang proud of it...there is a memorium at the end of the 1st ep. When I saw her the day before she died she had just wrapped this show and was so happy! This show was really important to her and so were many of the guys in the show. She loved these guys! Even if it's not your speed, it is worth checking out!

Posted by KW's B on Tue, Feb 10, 2009

Lisa Kaseff knew Kathy from: We worked together on General Hospital and Love Cruise

Kathy and I worked together on GH starting in early 1989. We became fast friends! She made me laugh and was always incredibly supportive. We worked together again when I moved back to town. This time it was on a reality show called Love Cruise. Kathy got me in the door and proceeded to encourage and support me all through the shoot. I'm sorry to say we lost touch a bit after that but I never stopped thinking about her. She was a light in a sometimes dark world. She will be sorely missed!! Till we meet again my sweet friend!

Posted by Lisa Kaseff on Wed, Jan 21, 2009

Denise Lear & family from Vancouver, BC knew Kathy from: 2nd cousin

"The Chapell Heirs" in the Baptist Church in Olds, AB, taken in 1972.

I've had this picture of Kathy for as long as I can remember! I would have been 6 years old when it was taken and I remember thinking how famous my cousins must have been if they had a band that played at the church! A few years later my mom and dad packed up my brother and myself and we headed to what to me was the huge metropolis of Calgary to go watch Kathy in her performance of "Oklahoma". I thought the show was the best thing I had ever seen and I was amazed that we were able to go backstage to talk to her - she looked so beautiful! Even though I didn't see her often over the years I always enjoyed hearing through my parents how Kathy was doing. The last time I actually saw her would have been about 15 years ago at a family reunion. I always felt a special connection with her as we were often told at such events how much we look alike...which I always took as a huge compliment and hope it is at least a little bit true. I was so happy for her when her mom and dad showed me her beautiful wedding pictures. I'm so glad I had a chance to spend a little time with Gary and Francis this past summer. They have always spoken so highly of what she was accomplishing and Gary made a point of telling me how much she had enjoyed working on "From G's to gents" and how the people on the show made such an impression on her. It made me so sad to hear the news of her passing - and yet by reading all of the wonderful things that so many people have written about her I feel inspired by her yet again. Darryl, Gary, Fran, Don and family - please know that our love and thoughts are with you. I read this recently:

When you lose things,
It is only kindness that makes sense anymore,
Only kindness that ties your shoes
And sends you out into the day to mail letters and purchase bread,
Only kindness that raises its head
From the crowd of the world to say
It is I you have been looking for,
And then goes with you everywhere
Like a shadow or a friend.

Love from Uncle Jim, Auntie Sheila, Dave, Denise & Axel and family xo

Posted by Denise Lear & family from Vancouver, BC on Tue, Jan 13, 2009

Grant & Lynn Patton & family. Bentley, Alberta, Canada knew Kathy from: 2nd Cousin

Dear Darryl, uncle Gary, aunt Fran, Don & family,
We are so sorry to hear the news about Kathy. Words are not enough to express our sorrow at your loss.
I have many fond memories of Kathy & I am thankful to have been related to her. I know that she will be fondly remembered by us all.
Uncle Gary or Aunt Fran, I would appreciate getting information on how to contact you by telephone if possible or email. You can contact me through Uncle Jim Z. or otherwise.? You could also do a telephone directory search on me.
Prayers & God Bless,
Grant & Lynn Patton & family.

Posted by Grant & Lynn Patton & family. Bentley, Alberta, Canada on Sat, Jan 10, 2009

Larry Lewis knew Kathy from: Old family friend from Canada

My earliest memory of Kathy is 1969 or 70 I think - the Chapelheirs - the music group she formed with her brother and friends Dave and Sheila Chapman - were in our home to do a concert at our church and the entire group got sick with some kind of stomach virus. A house full of sick people :)
My other strong memories are of Kathy being a source of encouragement to me when I entered the Army in the early 80's - a little skinny soldier hanging out in LA with a popular girl did so much for my fragile ego. God Bless you Darryl - I must say I am SO glad she found you - even if it was for such a short time. You two seemed so happy in the pictures. I hurt for your loss. You and your family as well as Gary and Frankie are in my prayers.
Larry Lewis

Posted by Larry Lewis on Thu, Jan 8, 2009

David Wilson knew Kathy from: I worked with Kathy at 51 Minds.

Kathy I'm a richer person in mind and spirit for having the opportunity to know such a beautiful, kind, passionate, charming, vibrant, intelligent person such as yourself who brought joy to myself and so many. I'm going to miss that Angelic Smile and hearing you say "Hey Wilson, how are you?" every time we crossed paths in the building or on the street. It could be as many as 10 times a day but without fail, she always wanted to know how I was. I'll especially miss the times I would bump into kathy and Darryl outside the office or at work functions. She would always say "Hey Wilson, Have you met my husband Darryl? We must of met at least 20 times. He & I would just nod and be like "yeah maybe 1 or twice before. She was proud to introduce me to him and also for the fact she always wanted to make sure everyone was included and and felt comfortable in her presence. Though this time is sad and It's going to be hard to accept the fact I'm not going to see her again on this earth, I celebrate your life and will cherish the memories you've left with us. Till we meet again. Sleep In heavenly peace.

Posted by David Wilson on Wed, Jan 7, 2009

Omid Kahangi knew Kathy from: Friend

I can't believe that Kathy's gone. I met Kathy at my first job in this industry and we were instant friends. I was taken by how cute, smart, flirty, youthful and fun she was. She was able to connect with people in a way that left a lasting impression. I can tell by reading these posts that we will keep her memory alive for many more years. The image of her unforgettable smile will live on with so many friends that adored her.

Posted by Omid Kahangi on Tue, Jan 6, 2009

Matt Bennett knew Kathy from: We worked at BMP and 51 Minds together

The Love Cruise Wrap Party in Aruba, taken in 2000.

Everytime we lose someone in life, we always talk about all the positive things about that person and how great they were...regardless of the truth. In this case, it would be impossible not to mention all that is great about Kathy Wetherell, because that is all there is. I can't express how happy I would be when I would find out that Kathy would be working on the same show as me. She lit up a room and always made me smile and laugh. I couldn't say hi to her without hugging her. She always appreciated my work and opinions and I respected the hell out of her. She always made you feel important....and I needed that. She will be terribly missed by all who were lucky to know her. She was one of the good ones....and will always be. Goodbye Kathy, we will miss you.

Posted by Matt Bennett on Tue, Jan 6, 2009

Heather Muller knew Kathy from: We worked together at General Hospital

I don't have any digital photos of Kathy. I'll have to scan something and upload it. A lot of who I am today is because of Kathy. When I met her, we were going through a lot of the same things. She was ahead of me though and she managed to point me in the right direction. Although we did not lose touch altogether, I regret that we did not keep in better touch throughout the last 10 years. She was a real inspiration for me.

Posted by Heather Muller on Tue, Jan 6, 2009

Emily Schafer knew Kathy from: We worked together at 51 Minds

Kathy at a 51 Minds party, taken in 2007.

Kathy was so beautiful, vivacious and caring. She was a mentor to me and always encouraged me to "take charge"- even when I was clueless on set. She wanted me to succeed.

The service yesterday was beautiful. What an amazing way to remember all the JOY Kathy brought to everyone she met. My heart goes out to her friends and family.

Posted by Emily Schafer on Tue, Jan 6, 2009

David Goldschmid knew Kathy from: Co-worker, "General Hospital"

Kathy had a huge heart, loved talking with people, and loved entertainment - appreciating it as well as making it for others, whether she was singing, producing, etc. I will always remember being a meek intern at "General Hospital" and feeling so safe and comfortable on the days I got to work in the same office as Kathy and Marty Vagts. They laughed thru the day, and made me feel so welcome and valued. Kathy helped my career just like she helped so many others'. And though the news of her passing is unbelievably sad, I'm just trying to keep in mind that quote by Dr. Seuss: "Don't cry because it's over - smile because it happened." My deep sympathies go out to her family and loved ones....

Posted by David Goldschmid on Tue, Jan 6, 2009

Lilla Fiumi DiFlorio knew Kathy from: working on Love Cruise

When I think of Kathy all the memories I have are of her smiling or laughing. She was one of those rare people who shared her light with everyone she came across. She will be terribly missed... but how lucky we all have been to have known her!

Posted by Lilla Fiumi DiFlorio on Tue, Jan 6, 2009

Jenifer Hanen knew Kathy from: I met Kathy in 1999 through Erika

Kathy at Erika and Thomas' Wedding Reception, taken in 2005.

I first heard of Kathy from Erika's emails while they were both working the Road Rules Around the World adventure (or was it Road Rules Mexico & Belize? Erika can correct me here) and met her after the show was over.

I not only appreciated Kathy's friendship with Erika and all the great stories of their adventures in reality-tv-crew-land, but also I appreciate the times that I spent with Kathy be it at a party or in their world. My favorite stories are either when she and Bruce Thoms kindly let me, a civilian, join them for a weekend in Key West while they were filming a Road Rules in Feb. of 2000 or when somehow I ended up at Duke's in Malibu at Kathy & Erika's behest for an show related event and I tried to act like I knew what was going on. Between those two events and parties here and there, I loved Kathy's spirit, fierceness, joy, and bounce.

Most of all, what I appreciated about Kathy is that she was someone I could look up to and hold up as an example of God's grace, love and laughter. When Kathy got engaged to Darryl, while I had not seen her in awhile, I was very excited at her good news and faithfulness. Erika has kept me abreast on Kathy's comings and goings.

I am just heartbroken at her passing, but the Memorial Service today made me laugh and cry during the stories and I am greatly encouraged by the life Kathy led and the people she touched.

(p.s. I added a photo feature here, please do add photos of Kathy or with Kathy.)

Posted by Jenifer Hanen on Tue, Jan 6, 2009

Teddy Harris aka Teddy Tee knew Kathy from: Gs to Gents Season 2

My god i didnt wanna believe it! Kathy was so amazing to me,i couldn't believe that you could tell a complete stranger your story and just see the pain in their eyes that they feel for you.That was Kathy for sure.She listen and she understood that no ones perfect an everyone deserves a second chance.Personally i never new anyone like her,i dont know if my words can express the closeness i felt to her,she was a mother to me as well as a friend.She talked the talk and walked the walk for real.She has definitely been a positive influence on me and a big part of why my life is gonna be different.She always know what to say and seems like she can tell when somethings not right.I knew her for a short time,but i Love Kathy..as a mother,friend,mentor,and just being who she was.I know she wanted the best for me cause she said it to me as well as showed it.After the show we talked several times and i knew then that she was down for me,an i was down for her.I'm not real emotional at all and Kathy knew that,but i know shes looking down on me,and she can see the tears as i write this.I'm still in disbelief and even though i know shes in heaven that dont stop me for being Pissed Off that she had to go like that and in her prime.I know she would probably tell me to be happy and dont give up or do anything stupid or crazy,and by me knowing that.. i will honor her wishes.I can go on and on but i wont; i will just let you know that Kathy Wetherell was a great person and shes in my heart and will be in my heart Forever...It was most definitely my pleasure Kahty...Rest Well and I LOVE YOU...Teddy Tee

Posted by Teddy Harris aka Teddy Tee on Mon, Jan 5, 2009

Wayne Patriquin knew Kathy from: what feels like forever.

To Darrell, Gary & Frankie (Mom and Dad), Donnie, cousins, family and friends.

Kathy has always been a gem in my life, and I will always cherish the time that I was able to spend with her. She carried herself with incredible class, however was always modest about it. Her presence would always light up the room. Not just from her magnificent smile, but with her bubbly, upbeat personality. Most importantly, perhaps, was the fact that no one was more caring than Kathy. One of my fondest memories of her took place during one of my more critical admissions to the hospital. In the hollow, lonely darkness of a hospital night, a singing voice, I could not place, broke the droning sounds of the unit. Then a hand crept around the corner of the door way as a long black glove was slowly slid off. This was followed by a leg, wearing dark tights, and a giggling commotion from the nurses of that wing. Then my confusion was shattered with the only true happiness I had felt since my health had sent me back to the hospital. Kathy had come to Calgary, all the way from California, to dress as the classiest of “ladies of the evening”, with the sole purpose of comforting a friend in need. Kathy always had the beautiful sense of humor necessary to cheer anyone up.
It was this one of her many virtues that originally made us into such close friends. The loss of cousin Neil was hard on both of us, but having Kathy to talk to was what carried me through the loss of such a close friend. However, it also provided me with another one. Kathy and my ability to talk to each other was what made us such good friends. As her brothers and the kids went off to play sports, her and I would sit and talk for hours on end. Becoming a friend with Kathy meant that you had a friend forever. Friendship, to her, was an eternal bond that she would never neglect to cherish. When I was blessed with time to spend with Kathy, it was always as if I had never left. Kathy never missed a beat, and our friendship never faltered in the time we spent many hundreds of miles apart.
Kathy was, perhaps, the sweetest woman that I have ever met. In addition to her beautiful personality and her incredible smile, was the way she could communicate with her entrancing gaze. Kathy could say as much with words as she could with her eyes. This was why I knew immediately, when I first saw them together, that Darrell and her were soul mates. Her marriage to Darrell is the one thought that has brought a smile to my face through this devastating time. Although I deeply wish that we all could have shared more time in her presence, it eases my heart to know that she was happy and had found her counterpart in life. The time she was able to spend with her husband was an incredible blessing and, though any amount of time is too short, the time they had is something I will always be grateful for.
My heart is broken for the loss, but also for my inability to say or do anything to take away the pain that we are all feeling as Kathy would have. I cannot grasp why the world would be so cruel to take away such an angel. As this is truly what she was. If, however, it was her time to leave this place, it seems fitting that it be in the time of celebration for our savior Jesus Christ. Kathy was sent to us all to brighten all of our lives and to be a shining star in our times of need. I will be forever thankful for the opportunity to have had her as such a dear friend, and grateful to have been allowed into the family as Kathy was always like a sister to me. Be assured of my prayers for all of you. May you feel God’s presence and know His great love for you, because He too shares your sorrow. My love will always be with Kathy and the family.

Sincerely, Wayne Patriquin and Josh Cawthorpe

Posted by Wayne Patriquin on Mon, Jan 5, 2009

Veena Sood knew Kathy from: I've known Kathy since my Grade 2

Kathy and I stayed in touch all these years. How many of us can say that about someone we have met since Grade 2? I'm still in shock, and have been thinking of her throughout the holiday season. May your soul find peace.

Posted by Veena Sood on Mon, Jan 5, 2009

Bre Boscardin knew Kathy from: 51 Minds

Kathy was a woman who made everyone come to life with her presence. She has a special place in my heart and so many others. She was an office mom to so many of us at 51 Minds. A certain memory I have of Kathy is when I happened to be cleaning a closet next to her desk. In the process of organizing, I had set a few things on the corner of her desk. When she walks back to her desk, she screamed aloud, "Who put all this shit on my desk?" I told her it was me and apologized. She called me a, Stupid silly Bitch! Coming from anyone else, I would have been appalled. But, for all that know Kathy, it was hilarious! We were all laughing, as she often made us do.
Kathy will be missed and loved forever. Her golden soul will be carried on through so many lives that she touched, including mine.
Until we meet again Kathy... Rest well

Posted by Bre Boscardin on Fri, Jan 2, 2009

Lisa Leyba knew Kathy from: my ex is the hairdresser (loved the short hair)

Where do you start... she was a tornado of life we she entered a room you we're affected by her in some way or another you we're either gonna end up her good friend or laugh your ass off at her sense of humor. The moment she heard my foul mouth she said "Yes, i love it you swear like a drunkin' sailor". Her laugh was infectious once she started it was impossible to not end up in tears.She would always say "Hi Miss Lisa" and flash her famous smile, she always had a compliment to say whether it was on your outfit or just to say you look great, for all the people she had met throughout her life she always made each and every one feel so special.I am honored to say that I was one of Kathy's friend's she will never be forgotten and will be greatly missed.My promise to her, I will continue to laugh,love,live and oh yes "Miss Kathy" cuss!til we meet again my dear friend.I have lived to see the 8th.wonder and she was beautiful. Good-bye Sweetheart

Posted by Lisa Leyba on Tue, Dec 30, 2008

Michele Val Jean knew Kathy from: I worked with her at GH

I've been trying to remember something specific. You know - the exact day I met her, or the precise moment when we became friends. But there's nothing like that. I came over to GH from the recently cancelled 'Santa Barbara' as a script writer and editor. Kathy was working for Marty Vagts (RIP) and Bob Bardo. They facilitated. Well, that wasn't all they did, but for the purposes of this story - let's say they facilitated. Setting up my office, making sure I had everything I needed, that kind of thing. All of a sudden, I had an unexpected friend. Kathy and I immediately clicked and started sharing giggles and stories. I'd come in and rarely would I pass her office without stopping in for our morning talk. It was like I'd known this person forever. In that beginning time for me, Kathy was my ace boon coon (a really old expression that dates me but she would have known what I meant) The one who immediately reached out and got inside me. Got to know me. Became my anchor. My secret-sharer and secret-keeper. Kathy was always open - to laughter, to gossip, to listening. And always with that beautiful smile and positive attitude.

She left the show. I stayed. Then I left and eventually came back. Kathy started her career in reality. Our lives took different paths. One of the unfortunate things about this business called show is that it's all-consuming and time gets eaten up by the work. When you're finally able to find a clear spot, you tend to hold it dear - if for no other reason than you need to recharge for the next round. I'm sorry to say Kathy and I fell out of touch. I regret that. I wish I'd shared in the obvious happiness she found in the last years of her life. But I thought of her often - because once you knew Kathy, you never forgot her - and I took it for granted that I'd see her again. That we'd hook up and go out to dinner and catch up on all the dish and laugh our asses off. This... what just happened... is a cold slap in the face. But I have to say - it lightens my heart to know Kathy accomplished so much. That she'd found a wonderful man that got her and loved her. A man she loved back - enough to give him the amazing gift of her life to share. And a career path that validated her talent and took her all over the world - and gave her so many incredible friends who obviously adored and cherished her. All of it, nothing less than she deserved.

She's gone now. It's awful and it's sad and it's brutally unfair. But like all of you - I will carry Kathy Wetherwell in my heart, and miss her for the rest of my life. And if you can say you've touched someone that way - it was a life well lived. Go join your sister angels, girlfriend. And know that you were loved.

Posted by Michele Val Jean on Sun, Dec 28, 2008

Jodi knew Kathy from: I met Kathy when my husband and his band joined General Hospital as Wally Kurth's (Ned's) Band

Wow...how do you even begin to describe the first time you met this crazy gal?! She was a blessing and a life's lesson all in one. I met Kathy when my husband joined the General Hospital team as Wally Kurth's band member. Wally played Ned on the show and they had a band in real life. When the show wanted a band for his alter ego, Wally said, "I have a band!" It was there, at the ABC Studios in Burbank, that I was blessed to meet Kathy. We had an instant connection! Her love, her spirit, her vivaciousness, and her lovely, brutal honesty won me over in a nano-second. Through the days and months that came, we developed a precious friendship. We helped each other through some very, very, difficult emotional times. For months and through the years, we spoke almost daily. She is responsible for so much of my growth as a human being, and being an honest person. Not to others, but to myself. I have quoted her over the years more than she'll ever know this side of heaven. This quote has touched lives over and over again. It goes like this. "Once you own your own shit, no one can ever deem you powerless". She then went on to say, "If I ever screw up, I want to be able to raise my hand and say "ME! Over Here! I'm the one who screwed up!". She shared "if you do that, what's anyone going to say? They can no longer say "you F@$#ked up"! You already owned it!" What a life lesson. What a freeing place to be! Kathy gave me that place, that thought, and that opportunity to grow. I thank her for her smiles, her amazing voice, her Christmas Carols, her laughter, that shining smile! I remember her calling me with her bet to shave her head for the Semester At Sea cruise. She said, "Well, I'll tell you one thing, it sure sorts out all the schmucks" (men!) What an honest, to yourself, kind of gal. You inspire me Kathy, still, every day. I hope God shares with you, the difference you have made in my life. I will miss you my precious friend. You have mattered! Well done, my good and faithful servant.

Posted by Jodi on Sun, Dec 28, 2008

Lauralee Jarvis knew Kathy from: 12 years of Friendship!

Kathy was my mentor, my advisor, my laugh partner, my Vietnamese buddy, my shoulder to lean on…my best friend! I owe most of my career and part of who I am today to her. For close to 12 years we laughed, fought, cried, bitched and then laughed some more. There will never be anyone in this world like Kathy and it is hard right now to imagine never being able to call her and hear her sweet voice.

The best Kathy story I have comes from the time of her wedding. I was serving in the Peace Corps and had no money for a gift. Instead I offered to come back to LA early and help her with all the final wedding logistics. The night or two before her wedding we were up to 3am doing maps, sending e-mails, printing the finalized schedule for the service and all the other odds and ends that need to be done right before the big day. With her sh*t eating grin that she got on her face when she was up to something she handed me a box. Slyly she said, “Thank you for all your hard work, please don’t be too made at me for this, but I just had to get it.”

Having no idea what to expect I opened to jewelry box to find an amazing silver Tiffany type bracelet with a silver heat attached to it. I got tears in my eyes, overwhelmed by such an amazing gift, as I thanked her. Again with that grin she said, “Oh no, don’t thank me yet, read what the heart says.” Then she burst into a side splitting, pee your pants laughter, until she had tears running out of her eyes. When I looked at the heart tag it read, “KW’s Bitch.” Then she pulled the “bride card” and ordered me to wear it to her wedding. During the wedding she held my arm up and showed everyone that she tagged me and them Darryl was her husband, but I was her Bitch.

For years Kathy has rarely called me by my name, it was usually, “Hey My Bitch, what are you up to”, “My Bitch wanna meet me for Vietnamese?” always dragging out the “My”. She took pride in having her own personal bitch and I took pride in being her bitch. Kathy, no one will ever fill your shoes. I also promise to never be another’s bitch and will forever be only your bitch… Kathy I will never have another best friend like you.

Posted by Lauralee Jarvis on Fri, Dec 26, 2008

Gracelyn Woods knew Kathy from: worked with her on random reality shows

I'm not good at these, but my first memory of Kathy was me saying the exact same thing "I'm not good at this" and her saying SHUT YOUR MOUTH! My first interaction with Kathy was an interesting one. I was breaking down, tear, snot , everything. I was upset because it was one of my first AD'ing gigs and I felt I was not doing as well as I could. As we were driving to location in the 15 pass she demands we pull over (at an in and out of course). She feeds me a couple of double doubles (she eats 2 as well) and tells me how to be teflon in this business. Wipes the tears from my eyes and gives me some amazing comments about my work ethic an character that keep me going to this day. Kathy says to me "you know girl, there are lot of dumb people in this business, so let's enjoy these tasty burgers and then get back on the road and show them how you're not one of those dumb people." On the continued car ride she made me sing songs until I cracked a smile. For a year after that Kathy would call me and send me emails making sure that I was still teflan and taking over the AD world. Each time she sent me an email it would be signed "The White Halle Berry" or another name I shall keep between Kathy and I hahah...To me Kathy was a walking description of the words Happy & Joy. I will always have her voice in my head telling me to be strong, and I like that. With that Laugh and that smile she could get anyone to do anything. I will love her always and miss her dearly.

Posted by Gracelyn Woods on Thu, Dec 25, 2008

MIchelle Millard-Kish knew Kathy from: Worked with her for the first time on Road Rules in '97, and became fast friends after that

I feel like a fist is clenching my heart...and I think that I shouldn't try to do justice to those feelings of grief and loss with words. And then I think...."Kathy would write something." And so I have. Here it is. I've never met a more alive person in my life...and so it's nearly impossible to think of her any other way than laughing, bossing, inspiring, flirting, dancing, and working harder than anyone else. My life is immeasurably richer for having been able to call her friend. Once I came to her with an issue on our production, and she told me "Don't come to me with a problem, come to me with a solution."...I've remembered those words in every professional role I've held since. I've never met anyone who balanced charm and authority as effortlessly as Kathy did. She was one of a kind and is so very very missed. --Michelle

Posted by MIchelle Millard-Kish on Thu, Dec 25, 2008

Erika knew Kathy from: worked with her ever since old skool Road Rules adventures

dearest Kathy,
the first time i saw you, you were swearing at a bunch of crocodiles while trying to feed them hunks of bloody raw meat. i immediately figured that we'd become friends.
it's a good thing we did, since over the next 10 years we'd travel half the world together, share production battle scars, be roommates in really random places, and encourage each other into relationships with men we'd end up marrying.
Kathy, in many ways you helped me become the woman i am now. you nurtured me in this wacky career, laughed and cried with me when both were needed -- and there was a LOT of laughing -- emboldened me to believe in myself and my own strength, and championed the spirit of adventure that we faced life with. (plus you taught me that song, "you'd be a really nice girl if you didn't say 'F***' so much." i respected your authori-TAY.)
you are loved & missed by more people than you might think, because you were that friend & cheerleader for so many. i'll miss you, Kathy -- thanks for giving me so much.
love, Erika

Posted by Erika on Thu, Dec 25, 2008